Some days, don’tcha just wish there was a way to Ctrl+Alt+Delete for life’s experiences?
Not just do-overs, but block it out completely from our experiences . . . wishing somethings just never happened.
When we experience this, we are in the middle of trauma or we are re-living trauma. Trauma looks differently to different folks. Those who have experienced very little trauma can be upset and distraught over minor things, while those who have experienced horrible crisis can be more resilient over the little things. At the same time, those who experienced difficulties can be resilient for a while and then become overwhelmed by the next little thing that comes along.
Living in a cave can prevent a lot of the trauma we experience, yet that’s not a good option for us either.
So, how do we deal with trauma – or what WE perceive as trauma (others may perceive as silly – get over yourself) so that we feel free?
Unfortunately, there is no single way to deal with trauma. And maybe lots of ways in conjunction with one another may provide the relief we are looking for. For me, a combination of EFT (tapping), Emotion Code, Prayer, Breath Work, doing creative things, walking out in nature, petting kittens, doing a kindness, and a healthy dose of grandchildren really seems to help.
There is no quick fix, yet some processes take only a moment of time and offer hours of relief. I think the trick for me is to keep at it. The hardest part is recognizing I’m going down and taking immediate steps to prevent further damage. The biggest tip-off for me is finding fault with myself or with Phil (hard to believe, I know!) Once I recognize I’m criticizing either one of us, I know I’d better do something FAST!! That downward spiral gets out of control so fast it’ll make your head spin!
What are your tip-offs?
What do you do to counteract the spiral?
What will help a full blown spiral out of control negativity blast? In a word, GOD. Whatever you perceive that to be . . . Divine Source, All That Is . . .What-ever. The Presence of God is ever available to us and God’s Love happens immediately upon asking. Just ASK!!! “Please help me, I’m down and out!” Or, “Please help me I’m heading down and don’t want to go there.”
Also, God’s angelic host immediately intervene when asked. Specifically, Angels of Protection often are the first to arrive. These beings are often a brilliant white, yellow, or light orange in color. Darkness cannot stand all their brightness and will dissipate. Angels of Comfort come in next, these are often shades of blue and feel very soothing. Then, Angels of Healing attend.
These are often appear to be surrounded by hues of greens. If you see a flash of light out of the corner of your eye, you may have an angel in attendance. You may not perceive a color at first, but you might become aware of a color once you tune in regularly.
If you know someone who is struggling with overcoming trauma, you may send angels to assist them. You might want to send Angels of Illumination first – these are Luminary Angels and are a softer white than Angels of Protection. These Angels help a person see their options and opportunities to grow and shift. Without that awareness, not much else can happen. “Luminary Angels, please attend to my friend ___________.”
You may wish to send Angels of Protection along with the Luminary Angels. Or, you can let Divine Source determine which angels are best by saying, “Please send angels to ___________.”
When we are in the midst of that trauma spiral, it is nearly impossible to get clear enough to remember to ask. It’s wise to request Angels to attend when in a positive state, knowing that a downward turn could happen at any time. Traumatized people have lots of triggers that can get activated quickly. Once the cycle has broken at least once, it is tons easier to break free a second time or a third.
For me, it’s probably always going to be something for me to deal with. Thank Goodness I have tools that really help and that help really quickly. Keep searching until you find what works for you. A joyful life is our rightful state of being. Seek it. Find it. Own it!
I saw a post on Facebook the other day. . . Someone had been having a really hard time of it for awhile and they posted that they’d had a perfect day, except . . . (and went on to list what they didn’t like about the day.) You can see right away that something feels off about that, right?
We humans are programmed to look for what’s wrong for our survival. Those of us who’ve had trauma are more likely to discover the wrong more quickly than others might. That can be a good thing when sorting fruit or building a shed. To be happy, it’s imperative to invoke a different sort of search engine in our brain.
Here’s the deal: The Universe (God, Higher Power, All That Is, Whatever) happily serves us up what we think about. What we hold in our attention becomes gifted to us. What we focus on sends an energetic message to Universe, “More of this, please.” To which the Universe responds, “Certainly! And here! Have it in abundance!”
Let’s break the pattern of negative or sorrowful things happening to us. Take 15 minutes of your day . . . (Yes, just 15 minutes!) and think of wonderful things you’ve experienced in your life and think of wonderful things you hope to experience. It helps to write a list of happy happenstances. Keep it simple. Like; kicking through the fall leaves with the dogs. Really recall those details. Molly as a puppy diving into a pile of leaves and spinning until all the leaves were scattered. What joy that memory evokes! I remember the large oak leaves and the beautiful colors on each one. I recall Phil’s laugh. The crisp air, the bright sun, that old coat—ragged but warm, the throwing of leaves into the air and the dogs catching them. Just reading about my memory probably brought a wave of bright energy to you! Imagine how much power your own memories possess!
Once you’ve remembered good things for a bit, then shift into positive expectations—your hopes, what you hope to experience. Laughter, ease, comfort, excitement of pursuing a dream or a goal. Maybe you aren’t experiencing them in this moment, but you know you’ve experienced good things before. You can and will experience more goodness. Don’t have happy memories? Ask others to share theirs! When you can “get into it” it feels just as real and is just as powerful! See it and feel it. Then envision what you hope to experience.
See it into being. See yourself happy. See yourself healthy. See yourself financially comfortable. See yourself helping others. See it. Believe it. Be it!
15 minutes of remembering/envisioning offers some amazing side benefits! 1: one moves through the day uplifted. 2: one sees opportunities more easily. 3: one becomes immune to other’s negativity. 4: one experiences more joyful experiences throughout the day. 5: gratitude sets in to comfort, support, and motivate the next step. 6: others start to shift. 7: one begins to access the inner power of an indestructible life. 8: Happy happens. Without exception!
Had a really weird dream last night. It’s still “haunting” me. Funny how that happens. I remember in the dream, feeling a touch on my shoulder and then being teleported to a warzone and defending helpless people. After making sure they were safe, I was touched on the shoulder and brought back to my normal life. When I was touched, I would be teleported to where I was needed and given super powers while being dressed in white flowing garments. This kept happening and I became known as “The Apparition” – a super hero.
I don’t know what bothered me more, taking violent actions (even thought it was to defend others) or the fact that I never knew when it was going to happen. I awoke being afraid to get in the shower. Pretty silly. (Actually, I might want to sell the idea to Marvel – lol).
Yet, here it is, hours later, and I’m still feeling the effects of a dream.
Our bodies respond to what our mind is doing, thinking, processing. Our hormones respond to what our mind is doing, thinking, processing. Our health responds to what our mind is doing, thinking, processing. Our emotions respond to what the mind is doing, thinking, or processing. The mind is a powerful tool.
Giving my mind the task of writing to you, allows my mind to switch gears and shift focus. This in turn, allows my body and emotions to disengage from the night’s dream. Perhaps it’s a diversion. Perhaps it’s a re-set. Either way, I can move forward into something new and different.
I’m hoping to apply the same technique as I re-set my intentions for healthier living. I had a few low energy days and unfortunately, habituated the sitting around pattern. Boy, it’s hard to shake that! Once I’ve parked my backside down, it’s really hard to hoist it back up and get moving again. It will be imperative for me to find something to capture my attention. Sitting activates boredom which activates more sitting. (Crazy, right?!?) Good ole’ human nature!
I generally have lots of interests . . . unfortunately none of them interest me when I’ve gotten locked into the boredom mode. It’s like being a kid on vacation with all the time in the world and “nothin’ to do.” All the things I COULD do seem boring.
So, it’s time to cultivate something NEW. I wonder what that could be? Time to seek. Time to open the eyes of my heart and look for something that might interest me and generate a spark of interest. Once that spark ignites, there’s not much to hold me back.
Maybe I’ll write a story about “The Apparition.” Could be fun!
I’ll keep you posted!
A few nights ago, as I was about to drift off into sleep, I heard some words that I thought were very encouraging. I hoped I would remember them in the morning when I woke up. Gratefully, they were there when I awoke. Here they are . . . they sound surprisingly like something the Ancient Ones would say, don’t they? May this bless you as much as it has blessed me!
You think you are powerless,
When, in fact, you have merely reached the limits of your will. Divine Power has not even yet been tapped.
You think you are weak,
When, in fact, you have endured great tribulation with honor and grace.
You think you are afraid,
When, in truth, you have shown extraordinary courage to get this far!
You think you are lost,
When, in truth, you have lifted anchor and set sail for undiscovered lands.
You think you are adrift,
When, in truth, currents of Divine Inspiration guide your towards safety.
You think you are worthless,
When, in truth, your value to Divine Source exists beyond words.
Your thinking causes you great pain.
Truth brings you courage, resources, and unbounded Love.
Phil and I really enjoyed Mother Nature on our walk this morning. It was cool, but not crisp fall air yet. The trees were turning and the leaves beginning to fall. We certainly see and acknowledge the beauty of their letting go.
Why can’t we see that same beauty in our own releasing of things?
We view releasing as tragic or sorrowful. Yet, is it not like the trees releasing their leaves?
Friendships end. Jobs terminate. Doors close.
We see those as tragic and yet they are transition points to the next better thing.
I was asked this morning what brought Phil and I to the Tri-Cities. Tragedy. The utter loss of a business. It was heartbreaking and sad. It was financially devastating and ego wounding.
Yet, looking back, it was what HAD to happen to bring us to where we are and doing what we are doing. Certainly, we could have made other choices once we arrived here. Yet, surprisingly, one thing after another just “worked out” in our behalf and led us to stay here.
Though Phil’s first impression of this high desert of Eastern Washington was one of horror. As we crested the hill past Hermiston and dropped down into the valley, there wasn’t a tree in sight. Coming from Seattle, Sacramento, and Houston Texas most recently, Phil hadn’t really lived away from trees. His comment was, “What have you done to me?!” A few weeks of spectacular sunrises and sunsets softened the blow a bit. Now, dynamite couldn’t get him out of this area!
With the remarkable landscapes, the mild weather, and warm friendships and kinships, we flourished here. Once established, we were then able to be of service to others—where our true calling came into being.
Looking back on those losses, I’m eternally grateful for them! I see them as freedom rather than loss. I perceive them as wiping the slate clean rather than forfeiture.
More losses appear as life happens. Loss of health. Loss of vitality. Loss of concentration. Loss of moments that slip by too quickly. These losses however can be seen as blessings. With loss of health and vitality, I’ve learned to ask for help. (That’s a big one for me!) With loss of concentration, I’ve learned to move from one idea to the next more quickly—I get less bogged down in analyzing things to death. Loss of moments as they slip by is replaced with cherishing each and every experience.
Loss hurts. Yet, loss opens the door for the next wonderful thing to happen. Finding gratitude even when there is hurt, sorrow, and pain not only blesses the soul, but speeds delivery of new, amazing experiences.
To find a blessing in hurt and sorrow, complete this sentence, “I’m really grateful this is happening because . . . “ Sit with it. Ponder it. Allow the truth of it to come to the surface. When all we see or experience is the hurt and loss, we miss it. Even when the sorrow is happening, the blessing is already there! Focusing on the sorrow blocks us from seeing the blessing.
Take a new look. Be blessed and really feel the blessings flow!
Well, I finished cleaning my home office. It ended up taking 2 half days and one full day. I had notes and workshop stuff stacked up here and there and everywhere. Years of scheduling myself from one thing to the next without sufficient time to put away the last class taught along with no real organized way of storing weird stuff . . . well, it was something.
Good news is that I got to sort through a ton of stuff. Letting a bunch of stuff go that I no longer had use for and reviewing a ton of old classes and lessons that I’d previously taught. Some of those classes were poorly attended, but really way-cool stuff. Maybe it just wasn’t time yet, or maybe I had some spiritual growing to do. Either way, I can revisit those things and present them as I’m led to do so.
I was amazed at how much energy it took to look through things. Each piece of paper had to be examined. Each notebook required scrutiny. Each packet of workshop handouts had to be evaluated. I must have made a million decisions throughout the process.
It’s amazing to me how much energy I have as a result!
We harbor so much material in limbo without making a decision on it. Making a decision releases a ton of energy. It seems like it would be the opposite. On some levels, I was really tired after making all those decisions and yet, it unlocked a huge amount of energy that, unknowingly, had been blocked!
We hold back from making decisions thinking those decisions are “too hard” for us. We delay moving forward because we don’t want to make a mistake. When really, the only mistake we make is doing nothing. It’s actually not even doing nothing, it’s less than nothing. There are vast energy stores blocked because we are afraid to move forward.
Certainly, we can list pros and cons to a decision and make the best one we can. We drag our feet on that because it feels like that would be hard. Yet, we have that information within us. We know both sides. We might even discover more that we know that we didn’t know we knew!
What happens sometimes is our head and our heart don’t seem to agree. Do I keep this or throw it away. My brain says it’s just crap and my heart says, “That friend gave it to me! I cherish it!” So, I kept a bunch of what my mind judged as crap and feel really good about it. I let go of a bunch of stuff that my brain said I should keep because, “I might need that someday.” If I truly need that, I’ll acquire it again – maybe in a different form.
The point is, keep it or don’t. Doesn’t matter. Just decide. It’s the deciding that breaks loose the blocked energy. Do it or don’t. Doesn’t really matter in the long run. Just decide. Even “mistakes” are actually great opportunities for blessings, lessons. and insights as yet unknown.
What are you hanging on to? If you choose to cling to something, clearly choose that option – find its value and cherish it. If you decide to move on, do that! Either way, you release blocked energy and have restored vitality to do something of value.
Be brave. Make a choice.
I started cleaning my home office this morning.
What a disaster.
They say a messy desk is the sign of genius. I wonder what a disaster of an office means?
I started in the closet. Found some old cool classes I’d forgotten I’d taught. Fun! Reorganized my paper stash. Ooooh, preety colors!! (Did I really need 3 open packages of yellow paper? Hmm. Must have!) Found some old blank cassette tapes for back when I used to record all my sessions on tape. Does anyone even use cassette tapes anymore? Well, they are no longer taking up space in my world!
I also pulled out a box full of stuff to be shredded. Good grief!
Found some other stuff I think I’ll use or share with others. I really thought I’d made some headway until I realized it had taken over an hour just to do the closet. There’s still not any room to put away the rest of the stuff cluttering up the office. I have this class and that workshop and all the handouts in boxes and totes, but they are strewn everywhere. I will teach those classes again, so I cannot get rid of that “stuff”. So, I’ll figure out a way to move stuff around so that it’s more accessible and hopefully a bit neater!
I’ve worn out this keyboard. Can’t read but a few letters and some of the numbers on the keys. Phil bought me a new keyboard over a year ago. Time to install that one and there would be one less box under my feet. (Although I admit, it’s kinda fun to glance down at the keyboard and realize I don’t have any visual clues there for what I’m typing. I have to look at the screen and pray for autopilot to take back over. That’s one of those times when auto pilot is a VERY GOOD thing!)
So, lots of decisions to be made in this process. Keep this? Discard that?
Each time we make a choice, we use up some of our brain’s power to control our will power. It will be important for me to be careful to not set myself up to make stupid health choices while I’m drained. I would have severely reduced will power to resist cake, for example. Research shows that our brain tires with lots of choices and our good intentions fly out the door after we’ve made a morning full of decisions.
That’s why will power is pretty much powerless and our good intentions never fly. We are worn out from deciding between this or that little thing – over and over and over. Then we “fail” at something we really would like to accomplish and feel we are bad or worthless or not-good-enough. When in fact, we are just human!
So how do we accomplish those things we really would like to accomplish?
Do them first. Make the plan first. Decide first.
Then as the day progresses, when faced with a decision to “slip” there is more energy supporting the chosen direction than there is to fall off track and into self-defeating self-indulgence.
Start the day with a plan – a plan that can be flexible when life throws a curve ball – grants us positive energy in the right direction.
Start the day with a prayer – we all could use a little help, right?!?
Start the day with a catch-phrase – a phrase that can catch us when we lose sight of the goal. A good catch-phrase might be in the form of an affirmation: I can do this. With God’s help, I am enough. I am blessed. I’m a blessing and I’m blessed. I walk a sacred path.
Whatever catch-phrase you may come up with will be instantly on your tongue and in your mind when you need it! Once uttered, it refreshes the body, mind, and soul and allows one the opportunity to reclaim the better path.
What is it you really want your day to look like?
Would you be willing to pray (speak to All That Is) about that? (Not begging for your way to happen, but for the best and brightest way to unfold. Divine Source may know more than you and might have a better plan at the ready!)
What quick catch-phrase can you create for yourself?
Our everyday world is filled with decisions left and right. Thank goodness we have the right to make choices. At the same time, those choices drain the will power. Time to rely on another kind of power that will see you through!
Hope this helps.
Phil and I cleaned out our back room yesterday (Sunday) afternoon. We have a master bedroom, an office/computer room, and a work-out room with weights and stuff. Well, the “stuff” in that room made it really hard to do anything.
Last year’s Christmas decorations were still on the floor, because I couldn’t get to the closet to put them away. Truth be told, even if I got to the closet, that was so junked up I couldn’t have gotten that box in there!
So, we dove in and got it done.
It took a couple of hours. Much of that time was looking at what was there and asking each other, will we use this ever again? Do we want this? Can we let it go?
Sometimes the answers were easy and things got move to the give-away pile or into the trash. Why WERE we keeping those bits of junk? Other times, the answers didn’t happen. No, I will never use the hand-made giant bunnies that were my mothers. Can I give them away? Nope. Can I give them to charity? Nope. For now, they got tucked into a bag for storage and redeposited into the back recesses of the closet.
Phil was wonderful about it and didn’t give me a bad time about keeping them. Of course, I didn’t give him a bad time about keeping some old car magazines that he might read again one day.
The heart just has its attachments to things. As long as we have room for them and they have value to our hearts, they can remain in our world. It was easy to see what we could release and those items effortlessly found their way out of the room.
Spiritually, we might want to take a look at what we are holding on to. Is it a truth or concept that serves us and blesses us still? Are we using that principle to guide our lives? Is it an old guilt that no longer serves to restrict us? Is it an old duty that takes the joy out of our service to the world? And the biggest question of all, do we cling to a false god of fear rather than the Divine Source of Love?
When we really look at that stuff, we can easily see what we are willing to release and what we want to hang on to for just awhile longer. We can notice what’s working and has value and keep it close at hand so it’s usable to us each day, like prayer, meditation, gratitude, and seeking guidance.
Once we got the work-out room de-cluttered, we could also dust and vacuum. It was a giant allergy pit. Now that it’s all clear, I go in there just to look around! I can see my watercolor supplies ready for me to start my next project. It brings me hope and anticipation that hadn’t been there in a while.
Spiritual de-cluttering does the same thing to our spirit! It grants us hope and anticipation that might have been hidden behind the old belief patterns or patterns of thought that no longer serve.
How does one de-clutter spiritually?
Look to see what’s not working so well in your life. There might be a stuck energy around that situation. A “should” or a “got to” or maybe a regret attached. Just notice what’s there. Without judgment, just notice. Judging makes it dig in like a tick! You’ll never extract that thing! Just notice with an open heart.
Ask yourself if that thought or belief still serves you? If it serves to make you feel badly, you get to choose whether you want to continue to feel badly or if you wish to move beyond that. Spiritual conviction implies noticing a behavior that doesn’t serve one’s self or others and making a conscious decision to change. This in no way requires guilt or shame. Those are worthless beyond an initial awareness of a wrongdoing. When we get attached to guilt or shame, we don’t really change, we just hide, shutdown, and tune out. We get to throw that out and replace it with right action based upon love, joy, and compassion.
Once we got our room cleaned up, unwanted things had to go into the dumpster. Spiritually speaking, old patterns go into a spiritual dumpster . . . not into our friend’s ear. Toss that crud to Divine Source who can sort and sift through all that and clean it up. The ultimate re-cycling! Every sorrow or sorrowful thing we’ve thought or done can be released and cleared along with all the distorted beliefs and old patterns of thought (like, “I’m worthless.” – that one’s definitely got to go!!!)
Once that old stuff is tossed, the good usable stuff can be accessed more quickly. And just like the cleaned out work-out room, a sense of peace descends and rests within us. It feels good to get clear! It feels great to be free! It feels wonderful to receive peace!
You’ve probably heard me say this before. Worry is a prayer in reverse. It’s true. Yet, we find ample opportunity to worry. Worry about what might go wrong . . . Worry about something bad that might happen again.
Worry is effortless.
It takes no effort to find ourselves stuck in the morass of worry and fear. Our brain naturally goes there. Our ancestors used worry to keep themselves safe. The lived through a wolf attack. Would a wolf attack again? They had to be on guard about that. That worry kept them alive.
We don’t have to worry about those same kinds of things. We worry about whether someone will not like me if I speak up. We worry whether we have enough money to pay the bills. We worry whether our health will get better . . . or worse.
Worry takes energy from us. It doesn’t help us get creative in finding ways to pay those bills nor does it help us heal. It draws from us rather than giving us anything!
Prayer on the other hand, works wonders.
Yet, we have make time to pray . . . or at least we think we do1
Yes, those beautiful moments of serenity when we can speak with Divine Source open and unafraid are truly awesome. Yet, how long does it take to worry? Only a second!
Our prayers can be just as immediate, just as quick, and just as powerful in a good way. As our thoughts of, “Oh, no, this could go wrong” come up, we can shift them and instantly pray, “Help me.” “Show me the next step.” “Help, please?”
Just because we don’t languish over a lengthy prologue to address the Almighty, doesn’t mean that we aren’t heard. On the contrary! When we shift into the mode to address Divine Source, Divine Source is already noticing and listening and most likely moving things into action in our behalf.
I am often amazed that I can utter a quick prayer for assistance and within moments something happens to let me know that Divine Source has already been acting in my behalf.
One day, I was having a bad day. Depression was kicking my butt. I knew it was a chemical imbalance and I was doing my part to shift that with supplements and nutrition. At the same time, I was really struggling to get my head above water.
I prayed the simple prayer, “Help me,” then went on with my scheduled activities for the day. Within a half hour – less than a half hour!! – I heard the doorbell. Thinking it was my grandson coming by to pick up something up, I opened the door to an amazing bouquet of flowers! They were sent by a friend whom I hadn’t spoken with in quite a while because she had moved to Montana! Know what the card said? Something like, “I felt like you needed a pick-me-up today. Love you!”
All That Is, knew the depths of my struggles before I did. All That Is awakened compassion in a friend hours before I needed it. All That Is touched a heart hundreds of miles away.
We neglect to pray because we fear we are not giving Divine Source honor or reverence. Those prayers-on-the-fly are heard!! Those prayers-on-the-fly are answered!
If you know who you are talking to, Divine Source (All That Is, Holy One, Lord, Creator, God, Loving Spirit of Light – whatever works for you) knows who you are talking to as well! Prayers-on-the-fly yield answers-on-the-fly!
When you feel a worry coming on, Pray On!
The timing of a person’s passing can be a time of great mystery. Why is it, some people have a slight illness and pass away and others endure horrific health issues for many years? Isn’t it odd that people are struck down in their prime while others live a much longer life?
I believe that we all have “Exit Points” along the way. Our soul/spirit has the opportunity to choose out or to choose in. We don't always see those exit points yet some are more than obvious - the near-fatal car accident, the life-threatening illness. Those opportunities are presented so that we can begin something new on a new plane of existence. While the human will may wish to perish, but (as those who are depressed and wish life to end) the soul/spirit can endure a great deal before it releases the breath of life. The human being may wish to live, but when the soul/spirit has completed all that it came here to do it returns to “All That Is.”
So, do we have any choice in the matter? I believe our soul/spirit is given opportunities to Exit. We are given Exit Points.
What is an Exit Point? An Exit Point is a moment given to the soul/spirit to choose. That moment of choice can look like a near-miss accident or a serious health issue. It could be one of those experiences that leave us feeling like we are very lucky to be alive. Ever had one of those? More like, how MANY of those have you experienced?
Those Exit Points have a powerful spiritual significance. Often our destiny has been fulfilled (at least as far as the soul/spirit is concerned) or we have achieved some measure of success or acceptance, or we have been stuck in a pattern from which we are ready to be released. If the soul chooses to remain in this life-line/time-line, then it experiences a “Living Reincarnation” wherein it accepts a new destiny or a new focus for life.
Things that may have been of primary importance no longer matter or don’t matter to the same level of interest. We get to take the lessons already learned and move beyond where we are into a more enriched experience of life with a greater spiritual significance. This gives the soul/spirit a re-birth of sorts without having to go through the dying process and infancy in a new life (for those who embrace the concept of reincarnation).
"Living Reincarnation" - an opportunity to be and do something new and different without having to perish changes everything. We reinvent ourselves in such a way that we aren't the same person at all. We may even choose to change our name or even change our face (or other body parts) surgically. We utilize an Exit Point to propel us into life-altering change. Because we are ready for it. Our soul/spirit released the old way of being and is now moving into a new state of being.
For some those changes cannot happen fast enough. (Isn't it interesting and ponderable that those that are urgently wishing to die, don't. And those that long for more time are faced with their own mortality? Hmm)
You may look back on your own life and recognize that you may have changed careers or experienced a big move right after one of those “near-miss” situations.
How do you know what to do with that Exit Point experience? The soul/spirit knows what it is ready to receive, know, and do . . .even if you don’t!
Someone dear to me, my brother, recently lost their loved one to a long dance with cancer. After my sister-in-law’s passing, my brother declared he couldn’t live without her. He said it over and over. We took a workshop together called the Sedona Method. This gave him an opportunity to look at life - and what his life was going to be - in a new way. He then was able to say, “I don’t like it, but I’m going to find a way to live without her.”
Right after that trip, he took another trip and ended up getting a bad chest cold while he was gone. When he got himself to the doctor, he was told that fluid was building up in his lungs. There was no pneumonia, just the fluid.
I firmly believe that if he hadn’t shifted his thinking, that pneumonia could have taken hold more easily and he could have perished. It was an Exit Point. Since that time, he has been doing a lot of shifting. He is not the same person he was 6 months ago.
Sometime ago, I experienced an Exit Point. It wasn’t an accident or an illness, but it was powerfully life changing none-the-less! I was resting and realized I wasn’t breathing. I wasn’t afraid. I didn’t feel the need to draw a breath. It was very peaceful. (I don’t believe this was just a sleep apnea experience – I believe it was different than that.)
A visual of Phil and our pets and our grandchildren appeared in my consciousness. A voice said to me, “Are you willing to live for them?”
I thought about Phil. About how much he loves me and how much I love him. I thought about my grandchildren and my pets and how much I love them. Now I'm not sure how much was conscious thought or was just an acknowledgment of the idea. It didn't seem to be an active consideration, just an awareness of my loving connection with my beloved, Phil my family and my pets.
So, I said, “Yes, I am.”
The voice said, “Then breathe deeply.”
I sucked in a deep breath and went back into a deep sleep.
Sometime later, I awoke to realize that, again, I wasn’t breathing again. I still felt wrapped in a peaceful state of being. I was shown The Divine Fellowship building and its people. The voice now said, “Are you willing to live for these?”
This time I found myself aware of The Divine Fellowship and how much love was there for me to give and receive. More time. Again the voice, “Are you willing to live for these?” I became aware of information that I have not yet shared with others and I said, “Yes, I am.”
The voice said, “Then breathe deeply.”
I did. And feel back into a deep sleep.
I don't know how much time passed when I awakened again to know that the breath of life was still within me, though I wasn’t inhaling nor exhaling at that moment. Like my world was suspended. Peace still accompanied me.
A voice again asked me if I was willing to live for a specific purpose. I cannot remember what I was asked. As I remember back, I recall feeling a sense of anticipation.
Again, I agreed to live.
The voice then revealed to me that there would be challenges with this new life and asked, “Are you willing to accept these challenges along with this new purpose?”
I said, “Yes, I am.”
The voice said, “Then breathe deeply.”
As I breathed again, I could feel the normal rhythm of life’s breath return to me and I drifted off into a restful and relaxed sleep. (Sometimes, I think I experience these things so that I can share them with others so we all can have a greater understanding of who we are spiritually.)
When I awoke again, I felt fine and recalled the experience clearly – all except the third request. I figure my soul/spirit knows, and with God’s help will direct my journey to fulfillment. There have been challenges already on this path, along with some great blessings.
So..... I believe I was offered an Exit Point and was my choice to stay was honored. I believe the soul/spirit has an agreement with God (Spirit, Source, whatever that is for you) and knows the lessons it came here to learn. The soul/spirit also knows the lessons it came here to participate in teaching others. When the lessons are done, the soul is ready to move on. We may want to live and do more things, yet if the soul has completed its tasks - fulfilled its contract with Spirit, the soul/spirit will set up an Exit Point. If we are done with this life and our soul's contract isn't, it's not going to set up an Exit Point no matter how much we stamp our feet and demand out.
If you have experienced an Exit Point, rest easy, knowing that your soul has chosen to carry you further in this life and to bless you with new experiences and more opportunities for love and joy.
If you haven’t experienced an Exit Point yet, rest easy knowing that now you will know what it’s all about and can face the experience with the power of the soul/spirit fully aware and armed with hope and positive anticipation.
An Exit Point is a gift from God as it offers the soul a release of this life path and its challenges and struggles. Choosing in or choosing out grants us great blessings either way the soul/spirit decides.
We can now also allow others their journey, even if we would hold on to them longer in this life. We miss them. However, their soul/spirit is fulfilling its destiny. The soul/spirit will override our personal preferences for life or death. The soul/spirit knows its truth and journeys into Love and Light whether it chooses to remain or chooses to cross over into spiritual realms.
If the soul is staying here, then there are wonderful things yet to come. If the soul is getting ready to exit then there are wonderful things yet to come! Either way, we win! How cool is that?!?
I believe that I'm in bonus time. I hope to make the most of it and do my best. Maybe I'll have years yet to live. Maybe I'll have another Exit Point tomorrow. Either way, I'm choosing to live what life I have with love, kindness, compassion and power. The power is there for each of us to wield in a good way.
How about you? You ready for a bonus round?
You can consciously create for yourself “Living Reincarnation” without the necessity of an Exit Point. Your power of choice wields great power. Start making the changes your desire now. Begin that new way of being now. That fresh start need not be traumatic nor difficult. Your conscious moment-to-moment choice of awareness allows the journey to unfold. The trick rests within knowing what we really desire and require . . . stay tuned for an article about that coming soon.