Phil and I cleaned out our back room yesterday (Sunday) afternoon. We have a master bedroom, an office/computer room, and a work-out room with weights and stuff. Well, the “stuff” in that room made it really hard to do anything.
Last year’s Christmas decorations were still on the floor, because I couldn’t get to the closet to put them away. Truth be told, even if I got to the closet, that was so junked up I couldn’t have gotten that box in there!
So, we dove in and got it done.
It took a couple of hours. Much of that time was looking at what was there and asking each other, will we use this ever again? Do we want this? Can we let it go?
Sometimes the answers were easy and things got move to the give-away pile or into the trash. Why WERE we keeping those bits of junk? Other times, the answers didn’t happen. No, I will never use the hand-made giant bunnies that were my mothers. Can I give them away? Nope. Can I give them to charity? Nope. For now, they got tucked into a bag for storage and redeposited into the back recesses of the closet.
Phil was wonderful about it and didn’t give me a bad time about keeping them. Of course, I didn’t give him a bad time about keeping some old car magazines that he might read again one day.
The heart just has its attachments to things. As long as we have room for them and they have value to our hearts, they can remain in our world. It was easy to see what we could release and those items effortlessly found their way out of the room.
Spiritually, we might want to take a look at what we are holding on to. Is it a truth or concept that serves us and blesses us still? Are we using that principle to guide our lives? Is it an old guilt that no longer serves to restrict us? Is it an old duty that takes the joy out of our service to the world? And the biggest question of all, do we cling to a false god of fear rather than the Divine Source of Love?
When we really look at that stuff, we can easily see what we are willing to release and what we want to hang on to for just awhile longer. We can notice what’s working and has value and keep it close at hand so it’s usable to us each day, like prayer, meditation, gratitude, and seeking guidance.
Once we got the work-out room de-cluttered, we could also dust and vacuum. It was a giant allergy pit. Now that it’s all clear, I go in there just to look around! I can see my watercolor supplies ready for me to start my next project. It brings me hope and anticipation that hadn’t been there in a while.
Spiritual de-cluttering does the same thing to our spirit! It grants us hope and anticipation that might have been hidden behind the old belief patterns or patterns of thought that no longer serve.
How does one de-clutter spiritually?
Look to see what’s not working so well in your life. There might be a stuck energy around that situation. A “should” or a “got to” or maybe a regret attached. Just notice what’s there. Without judgment, just notice. Judging makes it dig in like a tick! You’ll never extract that thing! Just notice with an open heart.
Ask yourself if that thought or belief still serves you? If it serves to make you feel badly, you get to choose whether you want to continue to feel badly or if you wish to move beyond that. Spiritual conviction implies noticing a behavior that doesn’t serve one’s self or others and making a conscious decision to change. This in no way requires guilt or shame. Those are worthless beyond an initial awareness of a wrongdoing. When we get attached to guilt or shame, we don’t really change, we just hide, shutdown, and tune out. We get to throw that out and replace it with right action based upon love, joy, and compassion.
Once we got our room cleaned up, unwanted things had to go into the dumpster. Spiritually speaking, old patterns go into a spiritual dumpster . . . not into our friend’s ear. Toss that crud to Divine Source who can sort and sift through all that and clean it up. The ultimate re-cycling! Every sorrow or sorrowful thing we’ve thought or done can be released and cleared along with all the distorted beliefs and old patterns of thought (like, “I’m worthless.” – that one’s definitely got to go!!!)
Once that old stuff is tossed, the good usable stuff can be accessed more quickly. And just like the cleaned out work-out room, a sense of peace descends and rests within us. It feels good to get clear! It feels great to be free! It feels wonderful to receive peace!
You’ve probably heard me say this before. Worry is a prayer in reverse. It’s true. Yet, we find ample opportunity to worry. Worry about what might go wrong . . . Worry about something bad that might happen again.
Worry is effortless.
It takes no effort to find ourselves stuck in the morass of worry and fear. Our brain naturally goes there. Our ancestors used worry to keep themselves safe. The lived through a wolf attack. Would a wolf attack again? They had to be on guard about that. That worry kept them alive.
We don’t have to worry about those same kinds of things. We worry about whether someone will not like me if I speak up. We worry whether we have enough money to pay the bills. We worry whether our health will get better . . . or worse.
Worry takes energy from us. It doesn’t help us get creative in finding ways to pay those bills nor does it help us heal. It draws from us rather than giving us anything!
Prayer on the other hand, works wonders.
Yet, we have make time to pray . . . or at least we think we do1
Yes, those beautiful moments of serenity when we can speak with Divine Source open and unafraid are truly awesome. Yet, how long does it take to worry? Only a second!
Our prayers can be just as immediate, just as quick, and just as powerful in a good way. As our thoughts of, “Oh, no, this could go wrong” come up, we can shift them and instantly pray, “Help me.” “Show me the next step.” “Help, please?”
Just because we don’t languish over a lengthy prologue to address the Almighty, doesn’t mean that we aren’t heard. On the contrary! When we shift into the mode to address Divine Source, Divine Source is already noticing and listening and most likely moving things into action in our behalf.
I am often amazed that I can utter a quick prayer for assistance and within moments something happens to let me know that Divine Source has already been acting in my behalf.
One day, I was having a bad day. Depression was kicking my butt. I knew it was a chemical imbalance and I was doing my part to shift that with supplements and nutrition. At the same time, I was really struggling to get my head above water.
I prayed the simple prayer, “Help me,” then went on with my scheduled activities for the day. Within a half hour – less than a half hour!! – I heard the doorbell. Thinking it was my grandson coming by to pick up something up, I opened the door to an amazing bouquet of flowers! They were sent by a friend whom I hadn’t spoken with in quite a while because she had moved to Montana! Know what the card said? Something like, “I felt like you needed a pick-me-up today. Love you!”
All That Is, knew the depths of my struggles before I did. All That Is awakened compassion in a friend hours before I needed it. All That Is touched a heart hundreds of miles away.
We neglect to pray because we fear we are not giving Divine Source honor or reverence. Those prayers-on-the-fly are heard!! Those prayers-on-the-fly are answered!
If you know who you are talking to, Divine Source (All That Is, Holy One, Lord, Creator, God, Loving Spirit of Light – whatever works for you) knows who you are talking to as well! Prayers-on-the-fly yield answers-on-the-fly!
When you feel a worry coming on, Pray On!
The timing of a person’s passing can be a time of great mystery. Why is it, some people have a slight illness and pass away and others endure horrific health issues for many years? Isn’t it odd that people are struck down in their prime while others live a much longer life?
I believe that we all have “Exit Points” along the way. Our soul/spirit has the opportunity to choose out or to choose in. We don't always see those exit points yet some are more than obvious - the near-fatal car accident, the life-threatening illness. Those opportunities are presented so that we can begin something new on a new plane of existence. While the human will may wish to perish, but (as those who are depressed and wish life to end) the soul/spirit can endure a great deal before it releases the breath of life. The human being may wish to live, but when the soul/spirit has completed all that it came here to do it returns to “All That Is.”
So, do we have any choice in the matter? I believe our soul/spirit is given opportunities to Exit. We are given Exit Points.
What is an Exit Point? An Exit Point is a moment given to the soul/spirit to choose. That moment of choice can look like a near-miss accident or a serious health issue. It could be one of those experiences that leave us feeling like we are very lucky to be alive. Ever had one of those? More like, how MANY of those have you experienced?
Those Exit Points have a powerful spiritual significance. Often our destiny has been fulfilled (at least as far as the soul/spirit is concerned) or we have achieved some measure of success or acceptance, or we have been stuck in a pattern from which we are ready to be released. If the soul chooses to remain in this life-line/time-line, then it experiences a “Living Reincarnation” wherein it accepts a new destiny or a new focus for life.
Things that may have been of primary importance no longer matter or don’t matter to the same level of interest. We get to take the lessons already learned and move beyond where we are into a more enriched experience of life with a greater spiritual significance. This gives the soul/spirit a re-birth of sorts without having to go through the dying process and infancy in a new life (for those who embrace the concept of reincarnation).
"Living Reincarnation" - an opportunity to be and do something new and different without having to perish changes everything. We reinvent ourselves in such a way that we aren't the same person at all. We may even choose to change our name or even change our face (or other body parts) surgically. We utilize an Exit Point to propel us into life-altering change. Because we are ready for it. Our soul/spirit released the old way of being and is now moving into a new state of being.
For some those changes cannot happen fast enough. (Isn't it interesting and ponderable that those that are urgently wishing to die, don't. And those that long for more time are faced with their own mortality? Hmm)
You may look back on your own life and recognize that you may have changed careers or experienced a big move right after one of those “near-miss” situations.
How do you know what to do with that Exit Point experience? The soul/spirit knows what it is ready to receive, know, and do . . .even if you don’t!
Someone dear to me, my brother, recently lost their loved one to a long dance with cancer. After my sister-in-law’s passing, my brother declared he couldn’t live without her. He said it over and over. We took a workshop together called the Sedona Method. This gave him an opportunity to look at life - and what his life was going to be - in a new way. He then was able to say, “I don’t like it, but I’m going to find a way to live without her.”
Right after that trip, he took another trip and ended up getting a bad chest cold while he was gone. When he got himself to the doctor, he was told that fluid was building up in his lungs. There was no pneumonia, just the fluid.
I firmly believe that if he hadn’t shifted his thinking, that pneumonia could have taken hold more easily and he could have perished. It was an Exit Point. Since that time, he has been doing a lot of shifting. He is not the same person he was 6 months ago.
Sometime ago, I experienced an Exit Point. It wasn’t an accident or an illness, but it was powerfully life changing none-the-less! I was resting and realized I wasn’t breathing. I wasn’t afraid. I didn’t feel the need to draw a breath. It was very peaceful. (I don’t believe this was just a sleep apnea experience – I believe it was different than that.)
A visual of Phil and our pets and our grandchildren appeared in my consciousness. A voice said to me, “Are you willing to live for them?”
I thought about Phil. About how much he loves me and how much I love him. I thought about my grandchildren and my pets and how much I love them. Now I'm not sure how much was conscious thought or was just an acknowledgment of the idea. It didn't seem to be an active consideration, just an awareness of my loving connection with my beloved, Phil my family and my pets.
So, I said, “Yes, I am.”
The voice said, “Then breathe deeply.”
I sucked in a deep breath and went back into a deep sleep.
Sometime later, I awoke to realize that, again, I wasn’t breathing again. I still felt wrapped in a peaceful state of being. I was shown The Divine Fellowship building and its people. The voice now said, “Are you willing to live for these?”
This time I found myself aware of The Divine Fellowship and how much love was there for me to give and receive. More time. Again the voice, “Are you willing to live for these?” I became aware of information that I have not yet shared with others and I said, “Yes, I am.”
The voice said, “Then breathe deeply.”
I did. And feel back into a deep sleep.
I don't know how much time passed when I awakened again to know that the breath of life was still within me, though I wasn’t inhaling nor exhaling at that moment. Like my world was suspended. Peace still accompanied me.
A voice again asked me if I was willing to live for a specific purpose. I cannot remember what I was asked. As I remember back, I recall feeling a sense of anticipation.
Again, I agreed to live.
The voice then revealed to me that there would be challenges with this new life and asked, “Are you willing to accept these challenges along with this new purpose?”
I said, “Yes, I am.”
The voice said, “Then breathe deeply.”
As I breathed again, I could feel the normal rhythm of life’s breath return to me and I drifted off into a restful and relaxed sleep. (Sometimes, I think I experience these things so that I can share them with others so we all can have a greater understanding of who we are spiritually.)
When I awoke again, I felt fine and recalled the experience clearly – all except the third request. I figure my soul/spirit knows, and with God’s help will direct my journey to fulfillment. There have been challenges already on this path, along with some great blessings.
So..... I believe I was offered an Exit Point and was my choice to stay was honored. I believe the soul/spirit has an agreement with God (Spirit, Source, whatever that is for you) and knows the lessons it came here to learn. The soul/spirit also knows the lessons it came here to participate in teaching others. When the lessons are done, the soul is ready to move on. We may want to live and do more things, yet if the soul has completed its tasks - fulfilled its contract with Spirit, the soul/spirit will set up an Exit Point. If we are done with this life and our soul's contract isn't, it's not going to set up an Exit Point no matter how much we stamp our feet and demand out.
If you have experienced an Exit Point, rest easy, knowing that your soul has chosen to carry you further in this life and to bless you with new experiences and more opportunities for love and joy.
If you haven’t experienced an Exit Point yet, rest easy knowing that now you will know what it’s all about and can face the experience with the power of the soul/spirit fully aware and armed with hope and positive anticipation.
An Exit Point is a gift from God as it offers the soul a release of this life path and its challenges and struggles. Choosing in or choosing out grants us great blessings either way the soul/spirit decides.
We can now also allow others their journey, even if we would hold on to them longer in this life. We miss them. However, their soul/spirit is fulfilling its destiny. The soul/spirit will override our personal preferences for life or death. The soul/spirit knows its truth and journeys into Love and Light whether it chooses to remain or chooses to cross over into spiritual realms.
If the soul is staying here, then there are wonderful things yet to come. If the soul is getting ready to exit then there are wonderful things yet to come! Either way, we win! How cool is that?!?
I believe that I'm in bonus time. I hope to make the most of it and do my best. Maybe I'll have years yet to live. Maybe I'll have another Exit Point tomorrow. Either way, I'm choosing to live what life I have with love, kindness, compassion and power. The power is there for each of us to wield in a good way.
How about you? You ready for a bonus round?
You can consciously create for yourself “Living Reincarnation” without the necessity of an Exit Point. Your power of choice wields great power. Start making the changes your desire now. Begin that new way of being now. That fresh start need not be traumatic nor difficult. Your conscious moment-to-moment choice of awareness allows the journey to unfold. The trick rests within knowing what we really desire and require . . . stay tuned for an article about that coming soon.
I’ve been working on a new workshop – aka Worth-Shop for several months now. I’ve nearly finished all of the handouts for the 8-part series to be held once a month. I’ll be offering a Mastery and Certification program for Intuitive Tarot.
I really enjoy and appreciate using the Tarot as a tool for intuitive readings. The pictures on the cards speak volumes and in combination with the questions asked and the position in the reading, can have a myriad of meanings. I’ve been doing readings professionally for over 25 years and every reading still blows me away. The information that comes through . . . the blessings that abound . . . the insights that assist. One just cannot make this stuff up!
It breaks my heart to see people using a reading to tell people what to do or to make themselves feel important. It is so much MORE than that!
I used to be very concerned about the Tarot and didn’t want to have anything to do with it. As frequently happens with me, the Universe (God) looks at that and probably chuckles and says, “hmm…what do you think of this?” Then throws me a curve ball that shifts my thinking completely. Because, I’m usually pretty convinced about something I know nothing about and I’m often wrong about my preconceived ideas.
Perhaps that’s why Intuitive Tarot is so exciting for me. Every time I open up intuitively I’m surprised and blessed. I believe that everyone is intuitive. Remember that time you said to yourself, “gosh, I wish I’d listened to that inner voice.” That was your intuition being guided by Divine Source to your highest and best good.
We just don’t know how to listen. Yet.
Intuition is like a muscle. If you use a muscle it gets stronger. Get grounded with in injury or illness, the muscle weakens. If we ignore our intuition/Divine Connection, it’s like not moving the muscle and it’s not very strong. Then! Something important comes through and we get all freaked out because it’s so strong that we are afraid of it!
That strong message happens because we are spiritual couch potatoes getting soft. Yet, the messages come through anyway. Imaging what would happen if we actually paid attention to our intuition routinely and allowed it to flow in a supportive and active way. Awesomeness happens!
Intuitive Tarot is one of many tools that accesses the intuition.
If you are interested in this Worth-shop, I’m including a document that has dates/times/costs along with the intuitive development program. If you have any questions, you can e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org (I hope to make this Mastery Worth-shop an online class next year for those who live too far away to attend in person. In the meantime, if you wish to take the foundation workshop online, you can go to www.learnintuitivetarot.com. This online course is a part of the Mastery course and will be included at a huge discount.)
Over the years, I’ve collected probably 40 or 50 Tarot decks. I think each one has something unique and different to express. I also have a bunch of Oracle decks (angel decks and the like). Our Worth-shop will primarily utilize Tarot which includes the Major Arcana and the Minor Arcana. We will also explore the oracle decks, but it is not necessary to own a set.
Whichever Tarot deck you choose will have great messages for you to learn, experience, grow and share.
I’m hosting a free information meeting at The Divine Fellowship, 513 Barth, Richland WA on Wednesday, August 22nd at 6:30.
I hope you have an opportunity to join in the fun!
Do you ever feel like, “I just don’t know what to dream anymore”?
We feel our dreams have abandoned us. It seems as if everything we’ve dreamed has turned to dust.
Phil and I have lost count of the number of business ventures we attempted that failed. We had one string of bad luck after another. We knew we were doing the right things, but everything was turning out wrong.
Why weren’t those things working? We were prayerful, giving of our means, spiritual, positive, joyful, grateful . . . we were “doing the deal”! Why didn’t it work?
“Why?” is the wrong question to ask. Why leads us into judgment. Judgment takes us away from the experience and into doubt and bitterness. The better question to ask is “What?” What did I learn? What did I experience? What shall I try next?
Each venture that Phil and I attempted and failed taught us something very important toward our role as leaders or granted us a tremendous gift in some way. The biggest thing failure gave us was the ability to release relying on how we think it should be. We became free to live beyond any limiting expectations.
The Heart’s Dream dreamed us into existence. The fear-filled, self-willed people we used to be couldn’t do the work we each do now do. Failures whittled away the rough edges and prepared us for what was to come. Our prayerful willingness to follow our interests led us right where we needed to be. Even when we thought we needed to be focused elsewhere.
As we allowed our attention to be drawn into areas that we loved, we found worthy work there.
Those failures were hard. We couldn’t help but take them personally. And that was also a good thing, because then we allowed ourselves to take good, hard looks at what we were doing, how we were doing it, and what we could do differently. Discouragement was a luxury we could not afford. At least not for longer than a day or two.
We are grateful for every painful step that led us to the fulfillment of our Heart’s Desires even when we didn’t know what they were.
So, I totally get it if you find yourself discouraged. Discouraged doesn’t mean you don’t have courage, it just means that you got the wind kicked out of you and you need a bit of a breather. Catch your breath and try again. And again. And again if need be. If failure is happening, it’s because your heart may know a better way. Your heart wants to align with your soul’s purpose.
You get to trust the process, and remember that it is a process. Failure is not a death sentence, rather the re-start button. Once your heart and your mind and your soul’s purpose align, you will attain success. Don’t be surprised if it doesn’t look like you think it’s gonna.
May your Heart’s Dream find you!
Seems like every day is laundry day. Something gets dirty, gets washed, gets put away (eventually). The most challenging thing to put away is fitted sheets. Well, the folding part. I’m happy to announce that I’ve figured it out. They are still lumpy and misshapen, but they are “folded” when they go in the linen closet.
It’s all a matter of corners. Once all the corners are seams in, pick one. Then the nearest corner gets turned out and tucked into the seams in corner. Do the same with the other two corners and tuck those into the first two. Okay, so it’s easier to do than describe.
It’s really easy to unfold a fitted sheet. Whip it around over the bed and all the corners fly out. Scoop them under the bed corners and bed is made!
So it is with life.
We are meant to be unfolded. We are meant to wrap around our journey and support and caress our heart’s desires.
Yet, we bunch ourselves all up. We get frustrated when our corners just doing fit expectations – our expectations or other’s expectations for us.
So, it’s time to stop folding in on ourselves and open up.
Did you know that a butterfly exits its chrysalis with its wings folded? When it feels it’s safe . . . after it has rested from its birthing ordeal, it pumps blood into the wings and the wings unfold.
Don’t feel like you can fly yet? Perhaps you’re still in the process of transformation. Perhaps you are resting after a struggle. Perhaps you don’t feel safe. Perhaps you don’t have a dream big enough to get your blood pumping. Or perhaps you doubt your worth and try to cram yourself into what you think others would prefer you to do or be.
Yet, unfoldment is the most natural thing for you!
Unfoldment is what you came here to do!
The butterfly know how to fly when it emerges. You, too, don’t have to know how it’s all supposed to work or what it looks like. You don’t have to have the answers.
Everything you put your attention upon brings you into clearer awareness of your unfolding. Every experience brought into your existence brings to you an opportunity to grow, change, emerge and unfold yet again in a new way.
We think we have to be perfect or we won’t be accepted. We think we have to make others happy or we won’t be okay. Being good at something is a blessing. Being kind is a blessing. Neither are soul obligations to make you okay. If you choose to find something to excel at, way-
cool! Do that! We could use more excellence in the world today! If you choose to be kind, awesome! Do that! We certainly could do with more kindness in the world today!
Whatever you choose to do, unfold in the doing. Open up to yourself in every choice you make and every action you take.
We would benefit with more unfoldment in the world today!
Well, summer is bearing down upon us. With the rising temperatures here in the South Eastern Corner of Washington state into the triple digits, we feel like we are melting. Maybe it’s just me.
At any rate, with the rising heat often comes rising issues. It’s like the heat bakes them out of us. What we thought we’ve dealt with and cleared surfaces again. Only it really stinks as the hot sun of awareness hits it.
Again! I have to deal with this again!!
Apparently so. But here’s the deal. When we deal with stuff that rises to the surface again, it means that we are getting closer to the root. Those roots go deep and entangle themselves around all aspects of our awareness. It’s imperative to do the weeding that presents itself – as it presents itself.
But, how do we do that.
We look at it.
We refrain from judging it. That includes judging ourselves about that issue or judging others about that issue. It may stink and it may hurt, but blame and shame hurt and stink worse! Just notice what’s in your awareness. (My cat brought in a dead rabbit the other day. It smelled really bad! Old judgments of shame and blame smell even worse!)
Your awareness is like a child with a magnifying glass and a piece of paper. In just a few seconds, that piece of paper is going to smoke and catch fire. The fire of your awareness can now burn off any old crud that has risen into your consciousness.
Is it that simple? Simple, yes. Easy, no. It’s not easy to really look at stuff. It’s not easy to view it without judgment. It’s not easy to let go of blame and shame. If it’s not their fault and it’s not my fault, then . . . what is it?
It’s a thing that happened.
It’s a thing that hurt terribly or your memory would not have retrieved it. However!!! The memory retrieves these things not to further harm us, or to make you feel pain again; but rather the memory gives us one more opportunity to put it in a new perspective and be free of it!
It is the sub-conscious’ wisdom that knows you are ready to be free. Right now! Trust the process to move you out of pain and into freedom.
So, look at any emotional pain with the eyes of Love and Light until you no longer see blame or shame. When the judgment that causes shame and blame falls away, you are free.
Oh, and good news! We get to ask for help with this! Whatever your belief system, there are Beings of Love and Light that await your request for assistance. They eagerly come in as a cleaning crew and assist in clearing this old, stinky, painful stuff out.
It will be like the cool, refreshing evening breeze after a hot day. Bliss!
My office is a disaster. I’ve got notes from three classes spread out over most of the open surface. My file cabinets are full. These are on-going classes, so I choose to leave them out rather than figure out where to put another file cabinet.
I’ve also got study material in boxes on the floor for a dormant class that I hope to reactivate.
I have in my heart to teach yet another new class (or two) and that material exists in files waiting to be finalized.
Then there’s the Healing Light Expo stuff that is an ongoing project that I keep in a file box near my chair in case I need to access that information.
GAH!!! This is a physical representation of my brain! Scattered in all directions.
Each direction has value and purpose and importance!
I’m not even going to mention the cat toys that exist in this space.
And then there’s Phil whose idea of filing is stacking things on top of each other. Deepest being oldest. Surprisingly enough, he can find anything by just visualizing how long ago he came across that piece of paper and lifts about 3 month’s worth of debris and ta-daaa! There it is! (Kind of amazing, actually.)
Are you laughing yet? I know I am.
So, here’s a file I can stow in the Expo box. Here is a piece of paper in my copy stand for the Board of Trustees meetings and here is another for the Board sitting to the left of the church calendar. I can put those together. Cat toy next to the stapler can go in the toy basket. A button needing to be sown on an old sweater can go in the mending box. I’ll be right back…
Oh, look! A class I had put together that I never had the opportunity to present! I think the weather was bad last winter so I postponed it. That could be fun! I’ll get it on the calendar!
Oh look! A dust cloth! I will put that to use right now. Wonderful I can now see my desk!
Imagine what our brains look like. We hang on to odd bits and pieces of information and experiences as if they were life and death. Just as my trash can in now full and my desk is now clean, I can release those odd bits and pieces from my awareness. Do I really need to keep old church calendars from month’s past? Nope. I can let those go.
Untaught class material I spent hours creating? Let’s keep that!
So, how do we release all that mental junk?
Same way we release physical junk.
We look at it. We assign it value. Then, depending upon its value, we keep or purge. The trick is the valuation part. When I was 9 years old, my favorite toy had great value for me. That same toy might have some sentimental value, but might be something I could allow another child to play with. Looking at it stirs up memories and feelings. When we release a thing, the memories and the feelings may remain or they may dissipate . . . also depending upon what valuation we gave that item/memory. Could be that old toy isn’t salvageable. Maybe it’s worth millions! I get to research and see if it holds value. My valuation may not be accurate.
We tend to give painful memories more value than they are worth.
Why? Because we don’t want to be hurt like that again, so we hold on in order to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, two things happen when we do that. One, we often are hurt in different ways as we journey through life, so we hang on to old painful stuff needlessly. Two, when we hold on to old pain, we are telling the Universe – “Hey! This is important! Pain is important to me!” So, the Universe serves us up more because that’s the unconscious directive we’ve issued.
We’ve heard: “Learn the lesson, then move on.” We translate that to: “Keep that pain active and maybe I’ll see it coming next time.” What “learn the lesson” really means is: discover your part and heal. So, if someone hurt my feelings by talking behind my back, I can keep the pain of betrayal active and move into a state of not trusting; or, I can recognize that I didn’t see the tell-tale signs of that person’s needing approval before I shared myself with them – I now honor myself and recognize my own need for approval when it shows up. This second way offers me the power of choice. I can hold my own council without needing to over-share. When I do find someone who holds the energy of loyalty and honor, I can share myself more deeply.
Which is freeing? Keeping the pain of betrayal active? Honoring one’s self?
What’s really cool about all this is that we only need to bring awareness to our part and the energy attached to the pain disengages and dissipates.
Try it yourself!
What’s an old pain that still haunts you? Did you have a part in that? If not, you can cut yourself free by recognizing you were innocent. If you had a part in it, how can you honor yourself? Choosing to honor yourself also cuts you free.
Freedom is like a clean desk. It allows space to create new things or to focus on things of value.
Just like cleaning my desk, it requires a bit of time and energy, but once done, a lot less energy is expended. Before my desk was clear, I had negative feelings about “all I had to do.” I felt overwhelmed and burdened. Just looking at that cluttered desk sucked energy from me. When in truth, there were just a few things requiring my attention for now. It took a lot more energy to look at the clutter than it did to actually process through to a clean desk.
So, too with old pain. The realization that there is old stuff there to look at seems overwhelming. Yet, just like finding three of four pieces of paper scattered all over my desk that related to the Expo, putting them together and putting them in the file took a lot less effort than experiencing the clutter.
Find one thing that you’d like to release and get clear from. Look at it with the eyes of discernment – not the perceptions of a wounded victim. Did you have a part? No? Trash-can that experience and recognize your innocence as a soul. Did you have a part? Yes? Honor the aspect of yourself that sees the truth of who you are. Be the Sacred Observer and witness your own value. As you discover your value, the pain falls away. Peace descends upon you and you are free!
My desk is not spotless. I still have a few things yet to sort and file. But for now, I have clear space from which to create. As I bring my attention to those final pieces of clutter, I become freer and clearer. It’s a process. I am okay with it not being perfect in this moment.
As you claim/re-claim honor for yourself, you can relax in not having to be perfect in this moment. You get to be freer and clearer in the process.
And that’s a good thing!
We certainly have been having some lovely weather. A bit hot, then a few cools days. A bit of wind, then gentle breezes. Lovely.
As I was outside sitting on the deck just allowing myself to “be” for a few moments before jumping in to the next task, I found myself just enjoying the flowers in the yard.
Last year, I stumbled upon a bright orange Coneflower called “Fiesta”. It lives up to its name and hosts a party every day for bees and butterflies. This year, I stumbled upon a vibrant orange Calla Lilly and a deep burgundy Calla Lilly. I don’t remember their names, yet they were spectacular this spring. As I was noticing this area of the garden, I noticed some bright orange among the green of the Calla Lilly.
Was it blooming again?!
Often spring plants are “forced” to bloom early so they look good for sale. This Calla Lilly had displayed some great orange and yellow blooms (all on the same plant). I decided I’d go look and see if it were true and if there indeed were new blooms. (I was certainly hoping!)
As I got close, all of a sudden I heard a whirring sound and something flew out of the plant and startled me. It was a hummingbird!! Beautiful blue hummingbird! I couldn’t really tell if it was drinking from the Calla Lilly or if it was enjoying the Fiesta Coneflower.
It hovered nearby for just a moment. I backed away, saddened that I had interrupted it’s meal. It darted nearby and hovered a moment and looked at me before it zipped away. What a delightful moment!
I’m so very, very glad that I followed my heart’s desire to see the flowers up close. Had I followed that other part of me that realized it had work to do, I’d have missed that “Miracle Moment” with the hummingbird.
Metaphysically, hummingbirds represent doing the impossible – they fly backwards!
I have lots of things going on in my world that I’d like to accomplish, yet at times, I feel like I don’t know enough tech stuff or have enough energy. I had just been thinking about my heart’s desires to move forward in a couple of new areas and had been entertaining thoughts of doubt.
Little Hummingbird met me to bring me the message that “All things are possible.” I don’t have to do them all, I know people who know stuff . . . The help I require will appear when I need it – unexpectedly perhaps!
All this to say, if you get a nudge to do something, you might want to follow that. Miracle Moments happen when we follow those nudges!
I just got back from a week-long workshop in Sedona, Arizona.
I experienced some really cool breakthroughs and had some powerful experiences. Good news/bad news with that. These breakthroughs will ask me to change how I think, feel, do, and be. Some are effortless. One breakthrough happened instantaneously as I noticed the camera recording the training session. I remembered that I’m uncomfortable around cameras. Then I noticed that discomfort and asked myself what that was about. The answer flashed back, because the people at the other end of the camera are strangers. In that same instant, I felt myself start to laugh. I said to myself, “Those people aren’t any stranger than me or anybody else I know!”
In a rush, all fear disappeared. All discomfort faded.
The breakthrough happened and there is no hint of lingering distress that used to accompany every waking moment – and some dream time. The change was instant, profound and lasting.
And then there are those breakthroughs that bring up new ideas and new concepts to bring into action. I do feel some discomfort.
What will that look like?
How can I accomplish that?
What if no one likes this?
What if I fail?
Those darn “what if’s” show up to shut down the party.
Yet, I can allow them to be there while I look at them. What will that look like? I don’t really care what it looks like, I care how it feels. If I hold on to the feeling, then I can create something lovely and joyful and helpful! How can I accomplish that? I cannot. Well, I cannot at this moment. The information I need has not yet been received. The process has not yet been revealed. I can live with that. (I don’t WANT to live with that! I WANT to have the answers and the flight plan all laid out! Right?!?) Too funny. How limiting our fears express themselves.
What if no one likes this? What if I fail? What if I don’t? A better question asks, “What blessing accompanies this?” Whether I fail or not – whether anyone else thinks it’s great or not, doing this new thing brings me heart joy. That is sufficient. More than sufficient – that is great!
These new things require me to change my perspective, my actions and my direction. Mostly a shift in my mindset from same-ol’ into the new thing.
I will experience nothing out of the ordinary as shift happens - meaning, when I walk, I shift from one foot to the other and take weight off one leg and shift it to the other, shifting the weight within my core - yet the effort is seamless and goes unnoticed because I’ve walked for a long time now.
A small child weaves with every unsure step. Yes, I’m unsure with each new step, yet I’m not a child. I’ve failed before! I’m really good at it! If I fail again, I will have a ton of fun on the way! Oh, that’s not failing! That’s really living!
So, what new direction are you facing? Feeling a bit fearful? We get to! We get to feel that trepidation. We also get to allow Divine Source to guide our steps in a new way.
We are not babies. We are children of the Universe. We are children of Light. We have sufficient experience, insight and guidance to move forward fearlessly and joyfully.